Hello all! My name is Kristie M. and I am a single mother of two children. My son is 12 yrs and my daughter is 5 yrs. I am 31 yrs old and have been working on getting a degree in IT for a while now. I am taking it slow but I am in school online. I have goals and dreams like most people but lately I feel like my dreams will never come true. Some of my dreams are to be able to buy or rent a house (we live in a trailer with limited space) so that my children can have room to have friends over and not be embarassed. It hurts so much that I am not able to provide that for them. Let me back up for a second...I forgot to mention that about a year and a half before my daughter was born I was in a car accident that has caused many problems for me including that of not being able to work. I hurt my back and ever since the accident I have severe anxiety problems. It has had a huge impact on my life. I do my best for my kids. They have food...I go without a lot so that they have plenty. They have clothes...not the best but I do take care of my children. If it weren't for them I would have no reason to live at this time. They are my sunshine and I truly mean that with all my heart. Ok...getting back to my dreams...I wish somehow I could get some help. Christmas is right around the corner and I have no clue how I will be able to make Santa come this year. It has been a huge struggle every year but this year is especially bad. I have to see a doctor once a month due to my back injury. I have no insurance and I do have to pay doctor bills in order for my doctor to continue seeing me. I can't afford to see a therapist for my anxiety issues. It has been a nightmare for me since the car accident. I am not the same person I was and I wish somehow I could get back to being that person who wasn't nervous about going places and seeing people. It is a really hard thing to deal with and very hard to hide this from my kids. I try to keep a happy face on for them as much as I can. I don't want to worry them about things. I have tried every way I know to get some help and have failed everytime. I found this website and thought maybe this is it. Maybe I will be able to give my kids a nice Christmas and who knows maybe I will be able to have a deposit for a house. These are my dreams and they are only for my babies...to make their live better and happier. If anyone takes the time to read this...I just want to thank you for your time. If anyone is willing to help my family...I would be more thankful than you could ever imagine. It would be amazing! Thanks so much!! -Kristie Maynard
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You remind me so much of myself. But let's tackle this one problem at a time.
What I just learned is that Ohio is NOT a no-fault state and there is a 2 year statute of limitations on filing claims- so here is a list of free clinics that may be able to help - unfortunately I was not able to find anything within a 5-10 mile radius of your zipcode.
PPARX can also help with free prescriptionsand your doctor should be able to provide you with samples as well.
You said the anxiety started a year and a half before your daughter was born - you would have been @ 22-23 y/o right? Just a thought, but once you see a doctor, check to see if you can get an appointment to an endocrinologist to have your hormone levels checked. The anxiety, although related to your accident, may also be related to PMS - keep track of it - when is it better or worse? If it is around PMS, then it may be hormone related and may be able to be controlled with brith control. Other hormones, such as insulin and T3, T4 (thyroid) may also trigger anxiety. Theonly way to know for sure is to have your levels checked by a physician. The reason I mention your age is because most people are diagnosed with anxiety ( and other mental illnesses @ 23 y/o - as I was) However, get all the facts and tests prior to accepting a diagnosis.
I have additional links to organizations on my homepage that may be able to help.
apply for social services - child support, food stamps, heap, medicaid - whatever you can get - take it....
As for the house - your dream can become a reality. There is an organization called NACA - they will walk you through the whole process step by step. It takes a while and it can be frustrating, but in the end you will have your home.
Just so you know, I was in your shoes. My son and daughter are 5 years apart. My son graduated college and my daughter is in her 2nd year of college. And yes, we do have our home. I can honestly say there is no greater feeling than being handed the keys to your first home.
I know it won't take you as long as it took me, but you will have your home. Be patient, it will happen.